I am married and have 2 kids. My husband and I have not had sex for the past year since
our second child. It was the same after our first child. Since marriage, we seldom have sex . I tried to talk to him but he refuses to discuss. He doesn't like kissing or hugging. I know
that he masturbates and satisfies himself. Please advise.

My birthdate : 05-07-1971

My husband : 25-01-1962

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M

Selangor

Dear Andi, about a year ago, I was given a dark blue sapphire set in tiny diamonds as a birthday present. I am now 23 years old.

Ever since I wore the pendant, my sexual urges have got out of control. I am now having three love affairs at the same time, and also have a gay lover. But I can't find happiness. My birthday is 5-3-1977. Could it be that the pendant in creating problems for me? Am I a nympho?

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Joyce

Petaling Jaya

My wife lubricates extensively and I do not have a big penis. I can hardly feel contact when we make love. Any suggestions?

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Why do I have such an urge to make love in a car? I get my thrills in the back seat or the front seat. Is this wrong? My birthdate is 27th April 1976.

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Dear Andi, I have been going out with a nurse for the past 2 weeks, and we have an open relationship with each other, so we also practise oral sex.

She has a strong medicine smell, but she says she does not use any to wash herself. Is it because she works in an environment of medicine?

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Dear Andi, I am 19 years old and have fallen in love with a man of 23. All was well until I confided that I had sex with an older man (Ricky) before I met my current boyfriend.

My boyfriend says that as long as I did not have an orgasm with Ricky, it means that there was no love, and he can live with it. Of course I have orgasms with my current boyfriend every time we make love, and now he keeps wanting to know how come I did not orgasm with Ricky? I am afraid to have an orgasm any more? Can you help me?

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Andi, for the past one month my wife has been experiencing net-sex, ever since we bought a computer/ She spends hours every evening chatting with men, and a main character has been appealing to her. This worries me.

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My husband has two wives and he is entitled to four. He is 48 years old, and I am 22. I am his second wife. I married him for ulterior motives. 

I was seeing my present husband while having an affair with the man I truly love who made me pregnant and preferred me to have a divorce. I decided otherwise and had to take that my present husband who was keeping me then had made me pregnant.

I agreed to marry. My baby is now one year old and is brought up by my husband's first wife who is 40 years old. Her name is Mariam.

Mariam has involved me in her business and we are all doing well.

On one of our business trips abroad, Mariam seduced me and now wishes me to be involved in threesomes with her boyfriends. I suspect it is business connected.

Should I talk to my husband? Or should I go along with Mariam? She has a stronger control over our husband. 

My birthdate is the 6th of April.

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Kartini

Jakarta

I am 33 years old and consider myself quite fit and healthy. My problem is that I can't control my ejaculation which makes sex for me over in a few minutes.

I don't fool around with other women and feel guilty that my wife remains unsatisfied, although she never complains.

I am physically well built with a 7 inch penis, but what's the use? Hope you can advise me. My birthdate is the 11th of July.

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Johnny

Indonesia

I am 19 years old and I am was recently involved with this wonderful man of 21. I am still a virgin and have told him that only a marriage will make me lose it. We kiss a lot and our sessions are getting more daring.

Now, he goes down on me all the time and expects me to do the same. Could you please urgently answer some questions? I don't want to lose him.

Can you get pregnant from oral sex? Can you get any diseases from oral sex? Does the sperm somehow get dissolved in the stomach?

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Leona

Ipoh

I live with my boyfriend and we are both 22 years of age. My birthdate is the 13th of February. Ever since we bought our first computer and got access to the Internet, my boyfriend surfs the sex sites and I caught him masturbating only yesterday.

Is this abnormal? Can this become an addiction?

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Nancy Foo

Singapore

After meeting a really nice guy, I have gotten engaged to him. My secret fear is that the disease of cancer runs in my family. Can having sex begin the cycle of cancer for me?

My birthdate is 15th September 1978.

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Nandini

Singapore

Received 22nd March 2000, from "Need Help"

Hi Andi.

I discovered that I had a lump at both side at my breast. Even the doctor confirmed it but he said (the doctor) that it's to small for their expectations so they asked me to meet again for another 4 month. I'm scared to death. I hope nothing bad will appear since I had small financial problem to support my condition. I don't want to tell my parents because I don't want to be their big burden.

My birthday is 29 of November 1974. Please help me.

Received 22nd March 2000, from Farah, Petaling Jaya

I haven't been able to carry on a normal, love relationship ever since I broke off with my first boyfriend 3 years ago. Of course there were guys but all of them only befriended me for sex which I gave in to due to loneliness and the need to feel loved. I, especially, cannot forget my last relationship. My ex-boyfriend was younger than me and we had stayed together for a while. I know I can't get him back but why can't I live my life normally. Why can't I find a nice guy?  Why have I lost confidence in myself? Why do I feel unwanted and suicidal at times? What must I do to myself? I just wished I had someone out there waiting for me but I know I don't have any. Tell me what I should do, please.

I was born on October 29th, 1973.

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Two weeks ago I met Angeline, who is finalizing her college studies in Hotel Management. I am 21 years old and work as a bar-captain in a hotel.

Our friendship grew close and we began to make love about 5 days ago and have been doing so regularly. We do love love each other, and get along just fine.

Yesterday, Angeline invited me to her house and as her parents had left for a holiday, she invited me to stay over. As usual we made love, and after each session Angeline would leave the bedroom, only to return demanding for more. This went on till the early morning hours. 

In the morning, while I was still in bed, I got the shock of my life, when I saw two Angelines. I was dumb struck, and could only stare at two scantily dressed girls. The real Angeline came to sit on my bed side, and explained that she had a twin sister, who was an identical twin.

Angeline further confessed that Angel, the name of the other twin sister, had made love to me too that night.

Angeline's birthday is 4th of April

My worry is whether I have broken the law.

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My boyfriend’s birthdate is 6^th April 1980

We are newly married and it was an arranged marriage. My husband drinks alcohol. Sometimes, he drinks too much, but that is when we have the best sex. He loses his inhibitions. I am unsure whether to curb his drinking habits, because I look forward to his being adventurous after drinking.

His birthdate is 9^th of April 1988.

Am I born to be a gay? My birthdate is 2^nd of November 1987.

When a boy or a man gets fat, does his penis gets fatter?

I have a mole on my lower lip, what does that mean?

My birthdate is 4^th April 1978.

A few nights ago, I dreamt that I was seduced by a midget, completely bold-headed, completely naked, mysterious looking man and this took place behind a tombstone in a cemetery. There was a super natural aura from this man. He completely satisfied me in my dream, but I had an eerie feeling when I woke up. My bed-sheet had been pulled off me, and I was totally undressed. What does my dream mean? My birthdate is 7^th of February 1971.

My new boyfriend prefers to shave his private parts. I asked him why, and he says it is cooler and cleaner. I think it is kinky. Hair turns me on. Can you tell me more?

His birthdate is 8^th July 1976.

My son recently married, and I moved into the same apartment with them. Recently, my daughter-in-law’s brother came to visit us. One afternoon, I was shocked to find them having oral sex with each other. My daughter-in-law begs me not to tell this to my son, who is her husband. What should I do?

My son’s birthdate is 3^rd October 1986.

My daughter-in-laws birthdate is 6^th February 1981.

I recently read an article in a book from China, that penetration ejaculation in a man can be cured by allowing the man to visit young or older prostitutes for a period of time. Is this true? My husband has this problem, and short of having an affair of my own. I am willing to do anything to help him.

His birthdate is 5^th March 1985.

My mother has many boyfriends. She and my father are divorced for 3 years already. Recently, one of her steady boyfriends, who is a successful businessman, met me by chance at a disco, and since then I have been seeing him. He has made love to me over the last 7 days, and I see him after college. He says he loves me. I am 19 years old and my mother is 38. I have heard my mother talk to him asking him why he doesn’t want to see her anymore. I dread to think that my mother would find out about him and me. But I don’t want to give him up either. He gives me all that I ask. What shall I do?

My birthday is 31^st May 1981.

His is 7^th November 1960.

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My wife is a gambler who cannot pay her gambling debts. She has confessed to me that she has been selling her body to pay off her debts. She promised to stop. But, last week, I secretly followed her to an apartment block where she stayed for the whole afternoon.

I have confronted her again, but she brought up her debts again. I don’t want to leave her, but I can’t bear to loose her. What shall I do?

My birthdate is 1^st February 1979.

My wife’s birthdate 6^th September 1979.

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